Intimacy is…

What is important about intimacy to you?
Is it touch?
Holding someone close.
Does it have to be sexual?
Can it be conversation?
Holding hands.
Think about this. If you want to share your perspective, comment below.


Opening The Way

Journal Work: Opening The Way

Opening The Way is an invocation, a call to the Divine, a call to the ancestors, a prayer, a song, an acknowledgment to the forces present in your life. It is an invitation to bring in positive forces, benevolent spirits, ancestors and Divine.

We open the way so that these seen and unseen forces can guide us. We open the way so that we may be put in the state of mind to receive signs and Divine messages. We open the way so that we can attune our energies to mind, body and spirit and learn to trust our instincts. We open the way so that opportunities have an easier portal to flow in.

Today filled with your New Moon Energy write an opening of the way…

This could be a poem, prayer, chant, mantra or invocation but it has to be filled with positive intentions and your power translated through words.

Getting Stuck in Our Rhythms

In an Eb moment in my relationship, not to mention a 4:00 am shift, got me to explore why my usual libido was out of whack. So, we all create a chemical synergy with our sexual partners, our bodies cleaving to a pattern of positions of flesh and passion. The only issue with this is we tend to repeat the same patterns over and over again. Okay, let me backtrack. In Eastern Philosophy the feet, ears and hands are a reflection of the whole body and applying pressure to specific points can heal and prevent illness, this is known as Reflexology. The specific points are called reflex points. Now there are reflex points all over the body and most intimately, the vagina and the penis both have all of the reflex points to heal and prevent illness for the whole body on them as well. In this respect, our health and exposure to disease is easily compromised by routine sex. The reflex points around the penis and scrotum as well as the points on the lips, vulva, clitoris and within the vaginal canal; these all need to be stimulated for optimal health. These reflex points are not set up for us as a people to be stagnant and in one or two positions. There needs to be some spontaneous movement. Our rhythms need to be more intentional, more about feeling, really knowing your partner and the kind of energy they need right now. It is a preconceived notion that sex will only feel good one way. If we use our intuition about how we angle and shift our bodies during sex we can reach all the reflex points.

So, with all this going on in my mind, I recalled moments where I either didn’t trust my partner or I feared to emasculate my partner so I went along with the usual routine. With routine sex, sometimes it’s really good, at times you’re frustrated when it doesn’t feel as good and then there are times there’s pain. A crack addict told me once that he only kept smoking crack to try to get to the same euphoria of a high as his first time. Like The Last Poet’s Gash Man where the pussy is just a wound he’s putting his manhood into because it “feels so good”. In relation to both of those thoughts we are addicted to lessening the moments that should matter. You go through a cycle where your feelings of arousal are deadened and this is the worst place to be when you’re being intimate. It takes away the potential and the ability to give or receive orgasm. As a woman; you loose some of your sensations in this kind of stagnancy. You become cut off not only from your womb, from your Sacred Place but most importantly from your partner. As a man; you loose part of your connection with your partner and you loose the ability to give your woman. This is because the nuances of your woman are numbed and her energy is blocked. Now as a man; you have physical and emotional blockages to clear to enjoy a multiorgasmic and sensual woman. What I came up with is that the variety of body movement, being aware of nuances from your partner and tuning into their energy creates a healing. It also deepens the intimacy while eliminating the Eb moments. I mean think about it, if you’re truly getting what you need every time you have any kind of sexual encounter, your esteem is not affected, your feelings of distrust decrease or cease and your bond is stronger. Then any damage or traumas from the past are given some soul healing embraces. We begin to heal those we claim to care about. We become whole and powerful beings. We turn the flesh-fulfilled, dirty, wounded act into a beautiful dance.
Basically, we need to get out of our sexual routines and create a revival of sacred intimate connection. Then we can be more spontaneous, intentional and intuitive with our partners. The sharing of our bodies, where we’re not just healing one aspect of each other, where we’re not just enjoying one aspect of our flesh. A place of sinuous sensuality where we are using our whole bodies, minds and energies. A place where every reflex point on our sacred sexual organs are being stimulated and nourished and not over healing, overworking or overexerting these areas. Arriving at a state when we are indeed being present by responding to the synchronicity of the moment and it’s not just sex it’s some kind of sensual connection where we’re together in our oneness and it’s just not masculine and feminine it is you and your partner sharing your energies in a poignant and spiritual way, in a more rhythmic way that is primordial and sacred.

Crown Care: Protect Your Head

Do you know that soft spot on your head? It’s the place that’s always been soft since we came into the world as babies. Have you ever noticed how tender or sore to the touch it feels? When I talk of the Crown of the Head or the Crown Chakra, I speak of the Fontanelle; this soft spot. What better way to receive Divine Messages or energy then from the open spot on your head? If you are doubting my belief, place your left hand over your Fontanelle and breathe. What did you experience? When I make this connection, I feel a sense of relief in my head and overall peace. As you read further, you will discover many tools to care for and protect your head.

Telepaths, mind readers, migraine sufferers and the energetic sensitive; do you cover your head when you are overwhelmed? The practice of covering or wrapping the head works as a shield to protect the head from sensory as well as energetic overload. Across cultures the practice of covering or dressing the head has been ceremoniously and reverently done. On a day when you know you are going to be bombarded with large groups of people, cover your head with the intention of shielding your head from intrusive energies. When the day is over and you are home, remove your shield and allow yourself to feel if there is a difference without it.

Head Cleansing is a way of bringing your mind back to a place of energetic balance and grounding. The cleansing of the head is more than just shampoo and conditioner. The cleansing of the head should be done with intention to clear and cleanse the head of negativity as well as residual energy. I prefer herbal, plant based scrubs for my head cleansing; however, essential oils or tinctures work well too. Once you have washed your hair (if you have hair) and cleansed your head; be sure to feed your head. When I say feed your head I speak of anointing your head with a light oil. Preferably, I would use coconut oil, jojoba, or olive oil. This works as a seal to complete the practice of head cleansing as well as prepares you for what energies you will come across once you are out in the world.

A method of self care I like to call Energetic Contact is where you seclude yourself for 2-5 minutes to connect and heal with your body using touch, breathing and tuning into your body. For the Crown Chakra or Fontanelle, I like to do a light massage along the edges of the soft spot. The pressure I use is no heavier than that of a dime. Then I use the fingertips of my left hand to lightly connect with the soft spot of the fontanelle, with pressure no heavier than that of a dime. When I’m finished, I cover my head and complete my day or if time permits allow myself to relax laying on my back.

I hope this has encouraged you to care for your crown with more intention. Until next time, bless!

My Yoni Egg Experience

Last year, February of 2014, a close friend and sister of my Womb Circle introduced me to her Amazonite Yoni Egg. She met this woman, Makeda Voletta also known as The Body Scientist, who is a well known Yoni Egg Provider. My friend was invited to join Makeda’s women’s group and learned of the Jade Egg.

In my little apothecary we sell crystals for healing both tumbled and raw. Up until now, we have never sold crystals with specific shapes. As I held my friend’s beautiful blue Yoni Egg, I could feel the light, loving energy radiate from it. My friend stated, “You should be selling Yoni Eggs”. Between the energy of her egg and her declaration I was motivated to research the Yoni Egg. It was sharing my research with my best friend who stumbled upon the world of Yoni Egg Knowledge on Youtube. Videos from China Brooks, Tiffany Janay of Organic Bloodline, Makeda Voletta and the prolific Grace Diaz. Within these Youtube videos you will find testimonials, breathing techniques and best practices.

I found my own Yoni Egg distributer and saved one of every kind of egg to try on my own. I had to give myself a talking to at this point because I still hadn’t decided on what egg to start with first. Then I remembered the first crystal that I could feel it’s energy strongly, a medium sized, heart shape Almandine Garnet. My first Yoni Egg was a 35mm by 45mm Almandine Garnet; all of the benefits of the crystal I definitely needed at that time. I was trying to clear away anger and the negative influences around it. Needless to say, I began my Yoni Egg love affair. At times when I’m not wearing my Almandine Garnet, I wear it in a leather pouch.

Every woman chooses to work with the Yoni Egg for their own purposes but I think all reasons bring great delight and healing. Please continue to read this blog for more about the Yoni Egg or just visit our online store at

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