In an Eb moment in my relationship, not to mention a 4:00 am shift, got me to explore why my usual libido was out of whack. So, we all create a chemical synergy with our sexual partners, our bodies cleaving to a pattern of positions of flesh and passion. The only issue with this is we tend to repeat the same patterns over and over again. Okay, let me backtrack. In Eastern Philosophy the feet, ears and hands are a reflection of the whole body and applying pressure to specific points can heal and prevent illness, this is known as Reflexology. The specific points are called reflex points. Now there are reflex points all over the body and most intimately, the vagina and the penis both have all of the reflex points to heal and prevent illness for the whole body on them as well. In this respect, our health and exposure to disease is easily compromised by routine sex. The reflex points around the penis and scrotum as well as the points on the lips, vulva, clitoris and within the vaginal canal; these all need to be stimulated for optimal health. These reflex points are not set up for us as a people to be stagnant and in one or two positions. There needs to be some spontaneous movement. Our rhythms need to be more intentional, more about feeling, really knowing your partner and the kind of energy they need right now. It is a preconceived notion that sex will only feel good one way. If we use our intuition about how we angle and shift our bodies during sex we can reach all the reflex points.
So, with all this going on in my mind, I recalled moments where I either didn’t trust my partner or I feared to emasculate my partner so I went along with the usual routine. With routine sex, sometimes it’s really good, at times you’re frustrated when it doesn’t feel as good and then there are times there’s pain. A crack addict told me once that he only kept smoking crack to try to get to the same euphoria of a high as his first time. Like The Last Poet’s Gash Man where the pussy is just a wound he’s putting his manhood into because it “feels so good”. In relation to both of those thoughts we are addicted to lessening the moments that should matter. You go through a cycle where your feelings of arousal are deadened and this is the worst place to be when you’re being intimate. It takes away the potential and the ability to give or receive orgasm. As a woman; you loose some of your sensations in this kind of stagnancy. You become cut off not only from your womb, from your Sacred Place but most importantly from your partner. As a man; you loose part of your connection with your partner and you loose the ability to give your woman. This is because the nuances of your woman are numbed and her energy is blocked. Now as a man; you have physical and emotional blockages to clear to enjoy a multiorgasmic and sensual woman. What I came up with is that the variety of body movement, being aware of nuances from your partner and tuning into their energy creates a healing. It also deepens the intimacy while eliminating the Eb moments. I mean think about it, if you’re truly getting what you need every time you have any kind of sexual encounter, your esteem is not affected, your feelings of distrust decrease or cease and your bond is stronger. Then any damage or traumas from the past are given some soul healing embraces. We begin to heal those we claim to care about. We become whole and powerful beings. We turn the flesh-fulfilled, dirty, wounded act into a beautiful dance.
Basically, we need to get out of our sexual routines and create a revival of sacred intimate connection. Then we can be more spontaneous, intentional and intuitive with our partners. The sharing of our bodies, where we’re not just healing one aspect of each other, where we’re not just enjoying one aspect of our flesh. A place of sinuous sensuality where we are using our whole bodies, minds and energies. A place where every reflex point on our sacred sexual organs are being stimulated and nourished and not over healing, overworking or overexerting these areas. Arriving at a state when we are indeed being present by responding to the synchronicity of the moment and it’s not just sex it’s some kind of sensual connection where we’re together in our oneness and it’s just not masculine and feminine it is you and your partner sharing your energies in a poignant and spiritual way, in a more rhythmic way that is primordial and sacred.